Demisexual- Finally, a word that describes my sexual orientation. The reason I stopped dating is because none of my dates believed me when I said it was important to form a non-sexual friendship before I could consider anything else.
"A demisexual is a person who does not experience sexual attraction unless they form an emotional connection. It's more commonly seen in, but by no means confined, to romantic relationships."
Yup, this is real. Of course, it can be more complicated, like when ya think there is an emotional connection but later discover it was one sided. Ouch! ..... None-the-less, I'm sure I have friends out there who feel the same way (You know who you are!) Maybe you also didn't know there is a name for this orientation. Maybe, with a word to describe us, we can be taken seriously when we say "put in the time." Someone truly interested will do that. Others won't and that's fine with me 'cuz I have kids to love and art to make.
Someone, disappointed, once asked me, "Did you just put me in the friend-zone?" not realizing THAT was a GOOD thing! Face it- the older we get the harder it is to develop in-depth friendships. Still, I believe, through our hardships and in the end of life, it's the strong foundations of friendships that hold people together. After-all, it's much easier to love somebody and not like them than it is to really like somebody you love.